Moment of clarity.

Hello all my lovelies,

We are starting very early on with the guest bloggers! 

This is super exciting for me, because It gives me something new and exciting to look forward to. This is the first blog ever to be posted on here besides my short previous letter- and it was written by a very smart, very talented and AMAZING girl that ive been lucky enough to have spent eight years getting to know. (She is also my roommate ) . I hope you all will enjoy. (:

Love, TJ.

My Moment of Clarity

                There have been times where every girl on earth feels like she isn’t good enough. I don’t care who you are…there was a time where nothing you did could change the way you felt or feel. I recently had a hard time with my self-confidence and self-worth…and I want to share what I have learned.

You can’t change who you are and you shouldn’t have to

                Time and time again I have felt that I was not good enough for anyone because it seemed like no one wanted to be in a relationship with me. I felt like I wasn’t attractive and that I just had to accept feeling unwanted, ugly, and settle to be the friend. Let me tell you right now, that way of thinking is WRONG! It is easy to get jealous and doubt yourself when you constantly have people coming up to you talking about their relationships. Don’t let this get to you and don’t try to change yourself to conform to what you think a guy might like. Be yourself, I know, I know, corny…but it is true. There is a reason you have friends and family that love you. DO NOT change just because one person isn’t bright enough to see your worth. Which leads me to…

Understand who you are and what you’re worth

                One day after you are done moping and you are tired of feeling sad everything will just click. You will come to understand the type of person you are and what you have to offer…I call it understanding your worth. I realized that I was an awesome woman who was self-motivated, beautiful, loyal, smart, and strong. Once I realized these things for myself I didn’t need anyone to reassure me…because FINALLY I believed in myself…I discovered who I was and what I was worth. Why go after a man who is worth 5 dollars when I am at least worth 100? Please, do not mistake that last sentence as me being cocky…I am just trying to make a point: DON’T SETTLE FOR LESS! Now, everyone does this at their own pace and it may take a totally different situation to discover your worth…but one day every woman realizes that she is worth more than she first believed.

Don’t pay attention to the crap others have to say

                Now that you understand your worth this is so much easier to accomplish. I have always been proud of the fact that I never let what others thought of me stop me from being myself…but then I lost that quality and I had a hard time getting it back. Everything was spinning out of control and I lost myself for a while, haha, then it clicked. Once I figured out, and was comfortable with, who I was and what I was about I started not to care about what others thought of me or what they had to say. Fact: everyone has an opinion about what you do, where you do it, and who you do it with. Everyone has an opinion on your life, but at the end of the day it is YOUR LIFE. Do not pay attention to all the crap that people will say about you because it will only bring you down. I have come to think of these people as being jealous and it works like a charm. It is so easy to focus on the negative things and we often remember the negative far longer than we remember the positive. We are only human and we can only block out so much…but if you make just a tiny effort of ignore the bull that people say on a daily then it will make life so much better.

So…instead of doubting yourself and obsessing over things that you cannot possibly change remember what I told you: You can’t change who you are and you shouldn’t have to. If someone doesn’t like the person you are then they can step. Why waste your time on someone who doesn’t appreciate the person you are? Understand who you are and what you are worth. Take the time to discover yourself and what makes you…you. We are often worth a lot more than we realize and when we discover it, it can be a powerful thing. When you know what you are worth there is no more doubt only the drive to succeed. Don’t pay attention to what anyone has to say about you. As long as you are content with how you are living your life and you are happy, why let others ruin it? Stupid people always have stupid stuff to say and if you don’t consider yourself stupid then their opinion should not matter. I speak from experience and this is what I have taken away from it. We all have our moments of doubt and our moments of clarity. 

I thought I would share my moment of clarity.

Peace,

L.J.